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Telling White Lies

Updated on June 26, 2019

Have you ever told a white lie to be kind, to protect the feelings of others, or maybe to simply avoid stigma? You're not alone.

For some living with a chronic condition, telling a white lie can be a way to save one's strength. Sometimes it's easier not to share your unvarnished truth, especially when it doesn't hurt anyone else.

Have you ever found yourself saying any of the following?

1. "No, no. I can do it myself."
2. "I'm not scared/nervous/anxious/unsure."
3. "I'm fine. Really."
4. "Don't worry. I'm used to this."
5. "No, I'm not in much pain."

Here are some conversations from the community about this topic:

“I hate it when people don't listen, especially people who are working with our bodies.”

“I am really scared at this point. l cannot tell my wife how bad I really am; she would fall apart.”

“While my family and friends do love me, believe me, and support me when I need it they don't really understand what I am going through.”

Why do you choose a white lie over sharing your true feelings?
What do you wish you could say instead?

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